I love this site and I just had to share my story with the other women who read this page every day. I am a married woman & all my girlfriends are single. I watch them make the same mistake over & over & over - a mistake I've made as well. Meet a guy, "hook up" and then get hurt. I don't see the benefits in that. This was obviously a name a man made up because he's the only one who benefits from it.

He gets to have casual sexual encounters with however many women and no one has the right to hold his feet to the fire because they have a mutual agreement that no one is committed. I personally think this is stupid. I had a "booty call" or two before I got married. And I did that because I knew that this is a person that's seeing others and I don't wanna put the hooks to him so soon because he may run away.

But they have to hold that inside because they aren't committed to him but they really like him so they continue to sex him wondering where he was last night when he wasn't returning their phone calls. All the long hours I've spent on the phone playing Love Counselor mean NOTHING! I mean how many meaningless encounters does a person have before you realize what's going on. Wow, that didn't work so maybe I should try something else. Doesn't sound like fun to me.

I did something different I made him fall in love with me & not my body. I drove him crazy and he told me so - a good crazy. We are married now 4 years and still use this technique. I'm not a wife that doesn't fulfill his needs. I just make him wait a lil bit to keep him interested. Hungry for more but not starving. Works for me and we are happy. He doesn't know this obviously but if you show your hand the secret is no longer a surprise. That's how I feel about hooking up your showing your hand.